I was sitting at my computer thinking about the best way to describe this feeling of too many eggs in one basket and I couldn't help but hum the rhyme of Humpty Dumpty.
'Humpty Dumpty sat on a wall,
Humpty Dumpty had a great fall.
All the king's horses and all the king's men
Couldn't put Humpty together again ... '
Bit of a grim story I agree, it is, however, appropriate for this post. Humpty Dumpty has appeared in various guises over time and has been a popular nursery rhyme since 1825, so he's been around for a little while. For the purpose of this blog, it's his character in the novel by Lewis Carroll, Through the Looking Glass, and the sequel to Alice's Adventures in Wonderland (1865) that I'm interested in.
In the story, Alice enters a fantastical world, by climbing through a mirror into a world that she can see beyond it. There she finds that, just like a reflection, everything is reversed, including logic (running helps you remain stationary, walking away from...
12 months ago, my body transformation coach told me that the program I was starting was just the beginning. I didn't believe her ...
Looking at myself in this photo, I feel so proud of my achievements in such a short time.
It hasn't been easy ...
I've still got work to do ...
I have good days and bad days ...
I sometimes skip the gym, but when I go I am 100% focused.
Sometimes I eat pizza and drink gin, but I now know how to take care of my nutrition.
She was right!
I've come to realise that progress is about continual learning and evolution.
I love the journey I am on.
Bring on the next 12 months I can't wait to see what they hold!
I share more about my journey in my eBook, Reigniting Your Purpose, which you can download by following the link below. In it, I share the exact steps I took to move forward with my health and wellness, my career, my life.
If I can do this, so can you!
I left the meeting feeling like things were finally going to work! I was excited and motivated to get stuck into this project. I knew it was an important one and I felt honoured that I had been chosen to lead it ...
The entire brief was perfect for me I knew I had the skills to deliver this one and so did the board! Wow!
I had just spent an hour in a meeting where I was praised for my attention to detail and ability to work with people and told that I was uniquely placed to deliver this to the business. It felt as if everything I had learned and all my experience so far had led me the point where I was able to deliver this and it was a big one!
It seemed too good to be true ...
I had been seduced by his charismatic personality, seduced into believing that I was the only person who could deliver this. Made to feel special. Like my skills were unique and I was promised all the support and resource I needed to...
Heinie has been incredibly supportive of my career since the beginning, he knew when we met that I was a career woman and he's always cheered me on.
We've never had traditional roles in our relationship and have enjoyed a 50/50 partnership from the start. We both work full time and equally contribute to the household.
He is calm and keeps me level headed, where I see crisis he sees a practical solution, he motivates me when I get overwhelmed. His silent confidence keeps me going.
He is also very protective and stepped in when things got too much for me at work - he decided that enough was enough and made me write my resignation letter.
I wouldn't be able to pursue my dreams without him by my side.
He is my rock, my biggest fan and my world.
And there it was ...
Another meeting where I was told my team wasn't performing and still not delivering to the right level. I was getting more and more frustrated by the constant uncalled for criticism and all I wanted to do was offer some 'free advice' ... it was starting to feel like a personal assault.
And breathe ... just breathe ... he is just a bad communicator ... he has always done it this way ... don't let it grind you down ... you are bigger than this ...
I got defensive and shouted back - that got me nowhere
I just took it and said nothing - that got me nowhere
I stood up and walked away - that got me nowhere and then there was THAT meeting where I asked very calmly for his help. I asked him to help me understand how this was helping US move closer to the delivery of the project in question ...
I was stunned ...
I was buzzing, had I cracked this?
Is this all that was needed? Some kind of pattern interrupt?
So I asked to...
Over the last few days, I've talked about what it feels like to be in a difficult situation at work, where the culture can be described as 'toxic'. Where it is extremely difficult to get things done. Where every meeting is challenging and your self-confidence is knocked. Feeling tired and worn and a general lack of action seems to be the only way to cope with things and avoid another confrontation.
Many people in this situation just want to fix it thinking that if they solve the problem their difficult relationship will be ok, job done, everyone happy.
My experience has shown me that it's not quite that simple!
The way I've learned to tackle this is to take action but do so with clarity of purpose and understand what you want to achieve.
If I had to sum up the top 2 things I did when I decided to confront the situation, 2 things that resulted in a positive outcome that is ... yes, I made mistakes and learned the hard way, to avoid those mistakes start here :
A Sunday well spent brings a week of content ... we've all heard that one!
As I make my way to the office I am contemplating another week, another day, another opportunity to make a difference, another project to deliver and another positive affirmation ... start the way you wish to continue ... ok here goes ...
"I'm really grateful to be working in this exciting industry with a fantastic team and to have this amazing job that helps me create the lifestyle I love!"
Over and over again, the words, "be courageous, be calm, be caring, be kind" were the words I said as I sat on the train. Yes, I did this every day ... when all I really wanted to do was run away!
In reality, my situation was eating away at my self-esteem. I was convinced I was the problem and that I must be doing things wrong, am I 'the person' who is not cut out for this role?
Well, that's how I feel after every team update with our leader. Nothing is ever right, there always seems to be an...
I was on top of the world!
After all the time spent planning our strategy for the project we were making progress. We had our budget signed off and agreed by senior management. The team was well balanced and we were ready to roll! I was feeling on top of the world!
Nothing more rewarding than feeling like we were actually making progress and with ease, like all the cogs were turning and we were moving in the same direction! yes!
I knew the culture of my work environment was the key to the success of the business going forward. As a team we were functioning well, we all had specific roles we were responsible for and it just worked!
Not only that our lines of communication were open and there was nothing standing in the way of our delivery. My open door policy ensured this. Yes, we had faced and I had no doubt would still face challenges along the way but I knew we would pull together as a team when needed and solve any problems that arose. The glue...
I couldn't believe what I was hearing!
Those words ...
... rang in my ears ... a big ben style bell was going off in my head.
Surely I had misheard ...
... this is not the Apprentice!
I had to bite my tongue. I was in a room full of senior managers who seem to be immune to this statement, some were amused by it, others just ignored it and I couldn't help but feel like my colleague was being thrown to the wolves!
Is this normal behaviour?
Am I just really gullible ... he hasn't really been fired, right?
All my colleague said was that he thought there was a better way to run this part of the project and started to present his findings. The next person to speak was the project manager and he said THAT ...
Being in the room with people who just accepted this as normal was something I wasn't comfortable with, I had never experienced it, I really didn't...
Last week I popped into a retail store local to my office and bought this fabulous poster! Shocking pink capital letters on a shiny silver background, white frame!
It reads work hard, play hard, be kind.
The shop assistant remarked on how awesome it is and that it is a limited edition item. We then went on to have the most fabulous conversation and he mentioned how he loves pink and red - so I showed him my Fearless notebook - which he loved.
I wanted to pick up a copy of the notebook for a friend, so that was my next stop and I bought him one too! He couldn't believe it when I have it to him, he was ecstatic. He said: 'you didn't! thanks so much!' and gave me a massive hug. He then asked my name and said 'please come back'. As I was leaving he said: 'You've made my day'.
It was such a good reminder to me that the things we regard as small can mean so much to others and that I need to be doing more of that! He felt good and it changed my whole outlook that day, I was...