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your bullyproof life Jan 13, 2021

Your BullyProof Life, my YouTube channel is back! 

Click here for the first episode of 2021

Meet Adam Pacifico who went from Barrister, to Met Police Cop, to Executive Educator. Today, Adam is the Chief Learning Officer of PCA. PCA is an award-winning global specialist in highly immersive and experiential learning for leaders across all levels, sectors and geographies. 

Find out what sparked Adam's passion for human-centred leadership, why it's the only kind of leadership that is going to fly in 2021, and what it takes to become a human-centred leader.   

We discuss personal resilience. Research for The Leader's Secret Codewhich Adam co-authored with Ian Mills, Mark Ridley and Ben Laker, identifies resilience as one of the seven core beliefs of top performing leaders (the other six are fulfilment, strategy, communication, influence, control and empowerment). Resilience is 'the ability to withstand tremendous pressure and...

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My 2020 reflections & THANK YOU!

roar! Dec 31, 2020

2020 stopped me in my tracks. In fact, it stopped all of us in our tracks - literally overnight.

Determined to make 2020-2030 the best decade of my life, I started the year with a bang. I'd just published by book ROAR! How to Tame the Bully Inside & Out, it even reached #1 best seller status on Amazon. I was on a roll... 

Ironically, I promised myself at the end of 2019, to slow down and be kinder to myself in 2020. 2019 was a year full of sacrifice. Working full time as a contractor and writing a book, while being a mom, wife and friend - and finding 'me time' - was no small feat. The juggle was real! By February I was failing miserably. Addicted to being busy, addicted to doing, I was running on empty again. I felt like such a fraud. I mean, "kindness to self first and foremost" is the whole premise of my book - how I had to recognise and tame my inner bully. How I had to learn to prioritise me on my list of priorities. How I had to learn to love...

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Do you have a super power?

ignite you Nov 19, 2020

At this point I won't blame you for thinking: "What a silly question Marilise, do I look like a superhero / heroine to you?"

Can you please entertain the idea (for moment) that we are all born with a super power? 

What if that super power is YOU?

Eek.. have I lost you? No? Then read on...

It's not too late to JOIN my free 45 mins IGNITE YOU masterclass on 20 Nov @12pm GMT. I'll share my IGNITE YOU blueprint (see below).

If you'd ask me these questions a few years ago, I would have told you to get lost. In fact, I would've probably used much stronger language.

At the time I felt lost. I'd just left my corporate job because of a toxic boss. I was unemployed, without purpose and fat. I was on the brink of a nervous breakdown, but I guess deep down I believed that I am enough. I got up, put on my big girl panties and started walking the long painful road to recovery.

Perhaps the biggest truth I had to face was that I allowed...

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Can you tell your battery chargers from your battery drainers?

ignite you Nov 12, 2020

Do you feel like you're running on empty?

Are you constantly attending to other peoples' agendas and not doing the stuff that really matters to you? 

Then IGNITE YOU is the place to be next Friday @12pm. Click HERE to join. During this masterclass I will share my blueprint containing everything I've learned about creating a deeply balanced life that is also highly successful. We all deserve to be successful in our careers, without sacrificing our health, relationships and happiness. 

It starts with YOU prioritising YOU on your list of priorities. I learned this the hard way. 

Click HERE to join my masterclass.

"Just when I thought I had it all figured out, with things finally falling into place – family, work and relationships – I crossed paths with a workplace bully who brought me to my knees. My nightmare went on for almost four years as I dealt with a boss who bullied me and everyone else. At his mercy and fearing for our jobs, day...
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Are you spinning too many plates?

ignite you Nov 09, 2020

... and do you know which plates are porcelain, paper or plastic? 

Click HERE to join my IGNITE YOU masterclass.

Not convinced? Keep going...

A few nights ago, at 1am in the morning, a good friend replied to my WhatsApp message "You well?"… she said: "Yep, mostly. Feel like there are lots of plates spinning"... To which I replied: "Make sure you're taking care of the porcelain plates, the paper and plastic ones won't break unless you tear them up or snap them in half."

This reminded me of a previous blog where I shared Bryan Dyson's analogy of life as a game in which you are juggling some five balls in the air. Juggling with family, health, friends and spirit being the glass balls and work being the rubber ball. If you drop it, it will always bounce back. 

In 2017 I had a successful corporate career, yet was burned out, exhausted and missing out on life with my family - my relationship with Heinie (my husband) and the boys were hanging by a...

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THE 'PERFECT' TEN | Top Skill #10: Accountability | JOIN US LIVE

perfect ten Oct 19, 2020

Whose fault was this?

In his 2017 Ted talk, Extreme Ownership, U.S. Navy Seal Jocko Willink shares how he had to prepare a debrief for his commanding officer (in the Spring of 2006 after a failed operation in the city of Ramadi, Iraq), to explain exactly what happened on the operation and what had gone wrong. He knew it meant that somebody had to pay; somebody had to be held accountable; somebody had to get fired for what had happened. In preparing for his debrief he detailed every mistake that was made and who made it - there was plenty of blame to go around, so many people that he could incriminate with guilt. However, 10 minutes before the debrief started he realised - and it hit him like a slap in the face - that there was only one person to blame. That day he took full responsibility and went on to explain the new tactics, techniques and procedures him and his men were going to implement to ensure such a travesty does not happen again. And guess what?...

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perfect ten Oct 16, 2020

What will it take to become incredibly influential in your relationships and career?

I had the best time with with my guests - Louise Cartwright & Robert Coles - this week CLICK HERE TO WATCH THE FULL INTERVIEW and find out:

1. The interesting fact they have in common - it's very funny!
2. Who have influenced them the most in their lives and why
3. Who they've influenced / are influencing
4. The three things the world's best influencers all have in common. 

Here is a little more about Louise & Robert:

  • Louise Cartwright works to transform small business owners in to 6 figure CEOs so they can live a life of financial, time and location freedom. In her “past life” Louise was an overweight, depressed, single parent, claiming benefits and in substantial debt. Using the tools she now shares with her clients, Louise turned it around to become a 6 time triathlete, mindset expert, international coach and speaker. It is her passion...
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THE 'PERFECT' TEN | Top Skill #9: Influence | JOIN US LIVE

perfect ten Oct 12, 2020

How can you become more influential in your relationships and career? 

THE 'PERFECT' TEN is back this week with TOP SKILL #9 Influence.

The world’s highest performers are remarkably influential. Take a moment to think about the most influential person in your life. What makes them so influential? 

Communicating with impact and developing influence with those around you, will make you better at getting people to believe in and support your efforts and ambitions. Unless you consciously develop a positive support network, major achievements over the long haul are all but impossible.

"Power is of two kinds: One is obtained by the fear of punishment and the other by acts of love."

Mahatma Gandhi 

I am delighted to be joined by Louise Cartwright and Robert Coles this Weds, 14 Oct @ 12pm, where we will discuss the importance of developing influence. 

JOIN US LIVE !!! to find out three things the world’s most influential...

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THE 'PERFECT' TEN | Top Skill #8: Psychology Mastery | JOIN US LIVE

perfect ten Oct 05, 2020

What can we learn from elite sport about psychology mastery? 

THE 'PERFECT' TEN is back this week with TOP SKILL #8 Psychology Mastery.

In my book 'ROAR! How to Tame the Bully Inside and Out', I have a Chapter (#6) called 'Win the Inner Game' - this is all about psychology mastery and I share how this helped me overcome my eating disorder some 20 years ago. The brain is so powerful - you have to control it otherwise it will control you.


We all face the F-word daily ... F - E - A - R ... and you know what FEAR stands for? False Evidence Appearing Real ... think about that for a moment.

And you know how to deal with it?


We are not talking here just about emotional intelligence, we are talking about emotional and mental FITNESS. Intelligence is a capability - you might have the capability (to be intelligent), you may know what to do, but it...

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THE 'PERFECT' TEN | Top Skill #7: Dignity | JOIN US LIVE

perfect ten Sep 28, 2020

Do you believe that our dignity comes from external sources or the way others treat us? Or, do you believe that no-one has the power to strip us of our dignity?

Leading with Dignity is a topic I will explore this Weds, 30 Sept @ 12pm with my expert guests, Tracey Groves and Joel Segal


Tracey Groves is the Founder of Intelligent Ethics. She's a trusted business adviser, expert facilitator and executive educator, critical friend and inspiring business speaker with deep consulting and business transformation experience working with Boards and Senior Business Leaders.  At PwC UK for over 25 years, the last 6 years as a UK Forensics Partner, Tracey’s specialism is in advising Leaders and providing consulting services on Corporate Governance and Sustainability, Ethical Leadership, Corporate Integrity, Culture Change and Social Behaviours, Digital Ethics, Regulatory Compliance, and Inclusion and Belonging.

Joel Segal...

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