Time with this amazing human in my happy place ...

amazing life Apr 29, 2019

Throwback to our holiday last year and the morning we decided to go for a run and a swim in Hermanus. Spending time with my sister Elsabet, one of the most important people in my life, is pure food for the soul!  I can still feel the breeze and smell the fresh ocean air - it is simply a magical part of the world and makes me feel happy and connected. Whenever I have the opportunity to do this I am reminded of how important taking quality time out with people who feed your soul is, I am learning the value of finding these people in my life every day. 

#perfectplace #familyiseverything

 

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Throwback to my TED-style talk at PWC’s inaugural Alumni Live Event 2018

I was reflecting back at my TED-style talk at PwC’s inaugural Alumni Live event on the 26th of June last year and can't help but recognise how far I have come since then. 

My talk was titled: “Completing the human firewall”. This was the toughest public speech I had done to date. I had 10 minutes to get my key idea(s) across, ideally with no notes and minimal slides, while being live streamed, was no small feat.

This would not have been possible for me had I not taken control of my situation and changed my day to day working life. I got onto that stage feeling calm, I had practised my speech for days and made sure I was well prepared and while I was nervous I couldn't wait to stand up in front of my colleagues and share my thoughts about Cybersecurity and my vision for the future. 

That evening I did myself proud, I spoke from the heart and felt a strong connection with my audience. I learned how sometimes the emotions of fear, anxiety...

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The Know-It-All .... hello! any room in there for the rest of us?

So you head into a management meeting to discuss progress to date. The person in charge of the meeting is what some would consider snobby, condescending and contemptuous, appearing to know it all, but in reality, they actually know nothing of real worth. The ‘know-it-all’ may convince their audience that they actually possess special knowledge that makes them superior.

They often rely on their team to focus on the detail of the work in hand and to problem solve and firefight, to come up with solutions and a way forward, only to dismiss these ideas as useless.

The annoying thing is that at a later date the same idea is proposed by them as a solution to the challenge 'we've all been facing' and then will take the credit for it.

Convincingly believing that they are the person who always knows best, they broadcast their winner self-image and make everyone else into comparative losers.

They also lack humility and announce again and again that they are the...

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Confident. In Control. Focused. High Performer.

Four qualities that describe me now ... 

Confident. In Control. Focused. High Performer.

Qualities I had lost, they disappeared over time and it took me hitting rock bottom to realise how far I had allowed things to go ...

My confidence was knocked a bit more each time I was left feeling like I had failed to deliver. 

I felt like I was handing over control of my happiness being worn down on every level by continual negative interactions at work and then to have to put on a falsely brave face left me feeling empty and defeated.

My focus had shifted from being positive and motivated instead I felt defensive and angry all the time and wore a mask to hide it all, taking that frustration home with every night! A glass or two of wine at the end of the day was the only way I felt I could cope.  

I felt like I was fighting a losing battle and unable to perform. I was left feeling like I wasn't delivering on anything, this I knew was a lie but I was full of...

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I WAS STUCK ...

I was stuck in my own groundhog day.

The same story repeating itself again and again and again and again ... 

Is it spring yet? Has the weather changed ... is it safe to come out?

Groundhog Day is a popular tradition celebrated in Canada and the United States on February 2. It derives from the Pennsylvania Dutch superstition that if a groundhog emerging from its burrow on this day sees its shadow due to clear weather, it will retreat to its den and winter will persist for six more weeks, and if it does not see its shadow because of cloudiness, spring will arrive early. While the tradition remains popular in modern times, studies have found no consistent correlation between a groundhog seeing its shadow or not and the subsequent arrival time of spring-like weather. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Groundhog_Day

How was I going to get out of this never ending loop where I was feeling like I was the person being singled out and just expected to deliver ...

It seemed that I was...

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I love writing on Sunday's ...

Writing a book has been one of the most challenging things I have ever tried to do.

I have spent hours putting together the format and designing the layout and the chapters and mapping out the structure of it, it has been tough and rewarding and involved a whole lot of soul searching on my part.

Now that I am writing each chapter I can easily spend hours mulling over research, thinking through the important message I am sharing in it.

Fleshing out my thoughts and reviewing it, making sure my writing is clear and I making my point while keeping the reader engaged ... sometimes I get stuck. 

This happened this weekend. I went inside to make some food. I cleared my emails. I checked out social media ... lol ... yes, we've all been there. 

I've discovered that when I do get stuck, I need a break and a change in environment.

So I moved from my desk in my studio to my desk in the garden !!

ahhh that's better ... 

#ROAR!Tamethebully

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Time out in the woods with my beautiful boys and Stella

amazing life Apr 19, 2019

What a treat to spend some time walking Stella together with my boys, time out in this magical place is food for the soul, I find reconnecting with nature incredibly grounding. Much needed after a full on week #qualitytime #familyiseverything

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LOYALTY is all I had left ...

 

Friday can't come quickly enough this week ...

I feel drained, exhausted like I've simply run out of steam ...

I've had a serious sense of humour failure this week ...

Everything seems too much and I just want to run and hide !!

 

That was my narrative not so long ago ...

I was facing a very challenging time at work where nothing made sense anymore and that no matter how much progress we made it was never enough, it was as though we were running but moving backwards. I felt numb at the end of every day. I questioned my reasons for being there. I knew I had to take care of myself and those around me because we were in it together. I would never leave someone out in the cold! If something presented us with a challenge, we tackled it together and resolved it together.

At the time I was struggling to get myself into work, to face my fears and be willing to take another bruising, I was fighting a losing battle and it was dawning on me that no matter what I did, nothing...

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Blinded by AMBITION

Ever been so blinded by your ambition that you choose to just suck it up because that's how people get ahead? Suck it up and never rock the boat? Never challenge the status quo because you want your performance to reflect positively, always!

Always the person at the front, always doing what the boss wants, never challenging them. 

Before you know it another day, another week, another year goes by and you are still no closer to that BIG break ...

Ever find yourself looking at senior people in your company and wondering what their secret is. How do some people climb the ranks so easily and others struggle? What is their secret? 

How many of us do whatever is required to get the recognition we need to feel successful, to earn our salaries, to earn the bonus we've been promised, to get that promotion or find that dream job.

For many people, the big break never comes!

Instead, we spend years treading carefully, not wanting to rock the boat or call out bad behaviour,...

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Learning to dance in the rain!

Gosh, it has been a long roller coaster ride of a day! Back to back meetings from the minute, I walked in this morning, I feel like I've been fire fighting all day with no respite and what feels like no support, this is wearing!

I've survived on a bag of nuts and coffee, no wonder I'm so wired. The pressure feels relentless a bit like a tornado hitting a town and everything being sucked up into it and whirled around and around only to leave floods and destruction in its wake.

Nothing good comes from this!

My pragmatic brain says ... there is an opportunity to rebuild and start again ...

But at what cost? 

Nevermind I am heading home now to my beautiful family. I will have calmed down by the time I walk in. A big hug from Heinie, cuddles with the boys and Stella and maybe a glass of wine before bed will help me relax, I really need a good nights rest. 

And hey, tomorrow is another day ...

The silver lining is simple ...

I'm learning to dance in the rain!

PS: I had an...

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