Take time to reframe

I remember feeling so incredibly excited about going on holiday a few years ago.

I always look forward to having a break but this time I really needed it. I felt shattered on every level and I felt I needed to recoup some family time as I had been working long hours, I was very stressed and my relationship with Heinie and the boys was taking second place to work, the realisation that I had let things slide as far was painful, to say the least.

So we decided to take the boys to Greece and catch up on family time in the sun, swimming in the sea, enjoying the gorgeous scenery, lovely food and I finally gave myself permission to breathe. Making this time my priority gave us time to reconnect as a family and it turned out to be one of the best holidays of my life. 

I then went back to SA for my sister's wedding which was such a special time, not only did I see her walk down the aisle and catch up with family, it was a restorative time for me spending time at home with my folks and allowing myself to relax, learning how to let all the stress wash away and giving myself the space that I needed to gain some perspective on my situation at work. 

If you've been following my blogs you would by now have a good insight into what my working environment was like at the time. 

I knew that I needed to get some perspective and take some time out of the business and was advised to take medical advice and be signed off on sick leave to create the space I needed from my day to day situation. I decided not to do so because I saw it as a failure. 

In practice, taking time out to reframe is the thing that put me back in the driving seat of my life. It was me taking back my power, the time away allowed me to take stock of where I was at and gave me a perfect opportunity to recover and come back stronger. 

I realised that to bring my best every day - I had to be willing to walk away ... 

If you are struggling with a difficult situation at work and just can't seem to overcome the constant draw on your energy to survive in your workplace then I would love to hear more about your experiences and would like to invite you to complete my survey or message me with more details about your story.

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INVITATION TO PARTICIPATE IN MY STUDY ON WORKPLACE CULTURE

I need your support, please. I am conducting a study for my book, Roar! How to tame the bully, and I would be very grateful if you would participate in my study.

In my eBook, you will have read about my own experience with workplace bullying and its toll on my relationships and my health (mentally and physically). That is why I am determined to help others recognise the signs of workplace bullying early on and to take action before it is too late.

If you have worked in a situation where you have been the Witness or Target of:

1. behaviour that is intentionally negative and malicious, whether physical or emotional, from one or more persons,
2. negative behaviour that is consistently aggressive and persistent, and
3. behaviour that is driven by another person’s desire to obtain control.

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This survey is being sent to individuals working in organisations across all industries worldwide. Your participation will help assure that the results generated present an accurate reflection of the prevalence of bullying behaviour in workplace cultures today.

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Thank you in advance,

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