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Tempted to hide but hey, this time I may be surprised ... my moment of Deja Vu

reigniting your purpose Aug 13, 2019

Oh my ... a moment of Deja Vu ...

I had just been called into another meeting to discuss our progress, I knew my integrity would be questioned again. I was doing my best to remain calm and professional but all I wanted to do was shout ...  I couldn't understand why this issue was so difficult to understand!

I couldn't help but feel that we were wasting time, going over the same stuff again and again ... this was my moment of Deja vu. We'd been there and done that, several times, so I had a pretty good idea of how the dialogue would go ... as a result I was very tempted to hide and ignore the meeting invite. I could be spending my time being productive, but hey, this time I thought, I may be surprised ... 

Ever had one of those days, weeks, months? dare I say it ... years?

Feeling like you are on the receiving end of a constant berating and just expected to suck it up again and again.

This was my experience not so long ago and it has shown me that there are a few things that can be done to change the dialogue and redirect this type of behaviour. So that the damaging effects it can have on relationships with our colleagues can be minimised.

Rather than helping to build an environment of collaboration and trust it tears down those bridges instantly. 

At the time I could see the effect it was having on those around me. Rather than challenge the situation to try and change the inevitable outcome most remained quiet for fear of not being heard or being ignored altogether or simply because they had tried in the past and made no progress.

We all respond differently to challenging, potentially toxic situations at work, its hard to always be the positive one, the one trying to pull everyone together and encouraging all to work as a team. 

My experience has shown me that the thing to do, to begin with, is to get honest with yourself about your situation and face it ... 

In my REIGNITING YOUR PURPOSE eBOOK, I share more about my experience with workplace bullying and how working in a toxic environment took its toll on my relationships and my health (mentally and physically) and what I did about it.

This is why I am determined to help others recognise the signs of workplace bullying early on and to take action before it is too late.

Rest assured you are not alone ...

-Marilise de Villiers

 

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