Learning to dance in the rain!

Gosh, it has been a long roller coaster ride of a day! Back to back meetings from the minute, I walked in this morning, I feel like I've been fire fighting all day with no respite and what feels like no support, this is wearing!

I've survived on a bag of nuts and coffee, no wonder I'm so wired. The pressure feels relentless a bit like a tornado hitting a town and everything being sucked up into it and whirled around and around only to leave floods and destruction in its wake.

Nothing good comes from this!

My pragmatic brain says ... there is an opportunity to rebuild and start again ...

But at what cost? 

Nevermind I am heading home now to my beautiful family. I will have calmed down by the time I walk in. A big hug from Heinie, cuddles with the boys and Stella and maybe a glass of wine before bed will help me relax, I really need a good nights rest. 

And hey, tomorrow is another day ...

The silver lining is simple ...

I'm learning to dance in the rain!

PS: I had an offline conversation today with one of my colleagues regarding the situation and she suggested I take the issue to HR, I'm in two minds about this because I don't want to come across as weak or ineffective and unable to cope with the demands of my role, I'm not sure about what to do. I definitely need to find the right person to talk to about this ...

I could see how the environment was affecting those around me. No one wanted to ask for help anymore like me they were nervous of the repercussions and nervous of being sidelined for promotion or added to the next list for redundancy.

Something has to change ... 

Sound like something you've experienced?

I would love to hear more about your experiences and would like to invite you to complete my survey or message me with more details about your story.

Please CLICK HERE to complete my survey.

If you want to know a little more about it then please scroll down and read more below.

INVITATION TO PARTICIPATE IN MY STUDY ON WORKPLACE CULTURE

I need your support, please. I am conducting a study for my book, Roar! How to tame the bully, and I would be very grateful if you would participate in my study.

In my eBook, you will have read about my own experience with workplace bullying and its toll on my relationships and my health (mentally and physically). That is why I am determined to help others recognise the signs of workplace bullying early on and to take action before it is too late.

If you have worked in a situation where you have been the Witness or Target of:

1. behaviour that is intentionally negative and malicious, whether physical or emotional, from one or more persons,
2. negative behaviour that is consistently aggressive and persistent, and
3. behaviour that is driven by another person’s desire to obtain control.

Then I would like to invite you to participate in this study.

This survey is being sent to individuals working in organisations across all industries worldwide. Your participation will help assure that the results generated present an accurate reflection of the prevalence of bullying behaviour in workplace cultures today.

TO COMPLETE THE SURVEY - CLICK HERE

The survey is anonymous and treated in the strictest confidence. You may refuse to answer any question or quit the survey at any time. It will take approximately 10-20 minutes to complete.

I’d love to get industry and country-specific analysis too, so the more responses I get, the better, so please feel free to send this link to your colleagues.

Thank you in advance,

Marilise de Villiers

TO COMPLETE THE SURVEY - CLICK HERE

PS: Although there may be no direct benefit to the participant, there are possible benefits to organisations and society as a whole. Leaders, managers, and human resource personnel may learn techniques for identifying, investigating, and managing workplace bullying. Potential benefits to employees would include improved mental, physical and emotional well-being. Raising awareness of workplace bullying could potentially benefit leaders and organisations by increasing employee engagement and productivity.