Confident. In Control. Focused. High Performer.

Four qualities that describe me now ... 

Confident. In Control. Focused. High Performer.

Qualities I had lost, they disappeared over time and it took me hitting rock bottom to realise how far I had allowed things to go ...

My confidence was knocked a bit more each time I was left feeling like I had failed to deliver. 

I felt like I was handing over control of my happiness being worn down on every level by continual negative interactions at work and then to have to put on a falsely brave face left me feeling empty and defeated.

My focus had shifted from being positive and motivated instead I felt defensive and angry all the time and wore a mask to hide it all, taking that frustration home with every night! A glass or two of wine at the end of the day was the only way I felt I could cope.  

I felt like I was fighting a losing battle and unable to perform. I was left feeling like I wasn't delivering on anything, this I knew was a lie but I was full of self-doubt and was tired of fire fighting.

I realised that for things to change, I had to change ... 

I needed to stand up and take control and do what was right for me.

As a result of leaving and starting my own consultancy, taking control of my health and my happiness I can say that I am moving in a direction that I am so excited about every day. My days are never easy but for the first time in a long time, I feel like I am in control and making choices that ensure the ultimate lifestyle for me and my family. 

I know how hard it is to feel like you are a failure and I know how hard it is to pull yourself out of that downward spiral ... I also know what it feels like to be free of it and out the other side. 

The purpose of this post is to remind you that the future is yours and that despite a difficult situation you can come out the other side. All you need to do is be honest about where you are, ask for help and then take action! The three steps I share in my eBook, mark the beginning of my amazing journey, download it below if you would like to read more.

If you struggling with a difficult situation at work and just can't seem to overcome the self-doubt that results from listening to it and working through it day after day then I would love to hear more about your experiences and would like to invite you to complete my survey or message me with more details about your story.

Please CLICK HERE to complete my survey.

If you want to know a little more about it then please scroll down and read more below.

INVITATION TO PARTICIPATE IN MY STUDY ON WORKPLACE CULTURE

I need your support, please. I am conducting a study for my book, Roar! How to tame the bully, and I would be very grateful if you would participate in my study.

In my eBook, you will have read about my own experience with workplace bullying and its toll on my relationships and my health (mentally and physically). That is why I am determined to help others recognise the signs of workplace bullying early on and to take action before it is too late.

If you have worked in a situation where you have been the Witness or Target of:

1. behaviour that is intentionally negative and malicious, whether physical or emotional, from one or more persons,
2. negative behaviour that is consistently aggressive and persistent, and
3. behaviour that is driven by another person’s desire to obtain control.

Then I would like to invite you to participate in this study.

This survey is being sent to individuals working in organisations across all industries worldwide. Your participation will help assure that the results generated present an accurate reflection of the prevalence of bullying behaviour in workplace cultures today.

TO COMPLETE THE SURVEY - CLICK HERE

The survey is anonymous and treated in the strictest confidence. You may refuse to answer any question or quit the survey at any time. It will take approximately 10-20 minutes to complete.

I’d love to get industry and country-specific analysis too, so the more responses I get, the better, so please feel free to send this link to your colleagues.

Thank you in advance,

Marilise de Villiers

TO COMPLETE THE SURVEY - CLICK HERE

PS: Although there may be no direct benefit to the participant, there are possible benefits to organisations and society as a whole. Leaders, managers, and human resource personnel may learn techniques for identifying, investigating, and managing workplace bullying. Potential benefits to employees would include improved mental, physical and emotional well-being. Raising awareness of workplace bullying could potentially benefit leaders and organisations by increasing employee engagement and productivity.